Are you currently trying to lose weight? Did you resolve to be healthier this year? If so, before you do anything, read this through to the end.
So many times, people hit the new year with a renewed sense of purpose and direction. They resolve to be healthier, to lose 10 pounds, to quit smoking. Some succeed, but many more struggle with these resolutions and fail.
Have you noticed that each year, there are a handful of “healthy” foods that hit the market and then the next year they are reported to be “unhealthy”? How confusing is that?! One year, “an apple a day keeps the doctor away” and the next year “sugar from apples is bad for your teeth”. This day agave syrup is the rage because it doesn’t peak the insulin levels like sugar does, the next day this is reported to be false.
Our bodies are complex machines and we have some knowledge of their inner workings, but I don’t know that we will never know it all! To add to that, our food is being genetically modified, processed and covered in chemicals for convenience and higher profits for the producers and without a true understanding of how this modification impacts our overall health and wellness.
Have you noticed that “healthy”, in terms of image, changes from decade to decade? In the 90’s it was Kate Moss super thin, then it changed to be not so thin, but still thin and now it is thin, but super-ripped. Why are we doing this to ourselves? My opinion is that most people want to look like someone else (we always want what we don’t have) and everyone wants to be accepted by the community and society.
Here are some questions for you:
- What does “healthy” really mean to you?
- What would being thinner really mean to you?
- Why do you want to lose weight or be healthier?
We’ve all heard at least one person say that “Age is just a number”. Well here is my saying: “Size and weight are just numbers”. That’s right, I said and I would gladly say it again!
- #1 We are all incredibly unique
- Each individual on this earth is a unique combination of variables which include our genes, bone structure, height, skin colour, hair colour, eye colour, chemical make up, physical make up…and this is what makes us each so wonderful.
- We all have beautiful unique souls, skills, strengths and talents. We all love and want to be loved back.
- #2 Forget the clothing size and focus on feeling
- Let’s stop basing our value and wellness on a clothing size; sizes differ from manufacturer to manufacturer anyway so they are not a great guage.
- #3 You are the only one who can define what feels best for you and your unique structure.
I used to make resolutions and goals like “lose 10 pounds by…”, but I’ve since stopped. Am I recommending that you don’t strive to maintain the health of your body, mind and soul? Absolutely not! Please let me explain.
In my earlier years, my relationship with myself based on “hate”. I was NEVER skinny enough, perfect enough or good enough. I compared myself with others and just when I started feeling good about myself, someone looked better than me. I starved, binged, purged, counted calories, limited intake, drank more coffee, smoked…sigh. You get the picture.
It wasn’t until I developed “food sensitivities” and got really ill from many foods (which wreaked havoc on my life and my body) that I lost a ton of weight. I didn’t really have a lot of weight to lose in the first place, to be honest.
I was finally the size of the person I had always hoped to be, but...:
- I didn’t feel well and I was constantly freezing. Seriously, I pretty much needed a sweater even in the heat of the Alberta summer.
- I was disgusted by how bony I was. Seriously, my collar bones, ribs and hip bones were all jutting out. Who knew that I wouldn’t want to meet my skeleton before I died?
- I didn’t feel the happiness that I had hoped for. I always thought that once I got to that “perfect size”, I will feel so satisfied and happy, but wanna know what I learned? Being my “ideal” size 4 didn’t increase my overall happiness. So if you find yourself saying “Oh…when I lose X pounds, then I will…”, you may want to reconsider if you really need to hold off to do the things you want!
I realized that no matter how long I had hoped to be super-skinny, size 4 was simply not a sustainable size for me and my body. There were no fireworks that I saw or extreme happiness/satisfaction…I was left cold and shivering in the heat of summer because I had no body fat left to keep me warm and I felt disgusting because my bones were sticking out all over the place!